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Rich. All hat, no cattle?

stetsonAhh; rich…

I hear the echo often. I repeat it on occasion, especially over a good cup of coffee. My son, the young man donning hat 2 of 26 may have even heard it a time or two. But, before the Stetson became his own, this hat belonged to another.

My maternal grandfather, Howard, was a man who wore many hats: Navy seaman, Postmaster, husband, father, Christian. But, rancher? No way. He was all hat, no cattle. That much is certain.

There is joy in that admission. You see, my grandfather was always the optimist. He found joy in the small moments, like a quiet cup of early morning coffee with his grandson, or a leisurely afternoon stroll. It was on such strolls that the hat would come out. Hats are good for wearing on strolls, especially Stetsons.

We would walk down to the creek, but not to check the livestock. Creeks were good for “plunking”, which if you don’t know is the fine art of throwing rocks over the embankment and waiting for the “plunk” as they hit the water hidden down below.

We would walk down to the market, but not to trade any commodities. The market was a great place to solicit a free chocolate chip cookie from the baker.

Howard grew up in the central/west Texas hamlet of Millsap. I heard him relay tales of covered wagons, and siblings dying young in accidents involving horses and plows. Grandad no doubt knew how to work the land, and maybe even how to punch a cow or two. But to my knowledge, he never owned one. In fact, I remember him buying that Stetson fairly late in life, probably long after this picture was taken. He likely even had to save up to get it.
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And yet, the man was rich.

Rich, like a strong, aromatic cup of coffee.

Rich, like a resounding plunk from the neighborhood creek.

Rich, like a freshly baked chocolate chip cookie.

Yep, my grandfather was all hat. That, and so much more.

I was never in Sumatra

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When I was a kid, we had a special edition of the classic board game “Clue.” This version paired the cutting edge 1980’s era technology of a VHS VCR (remember those?) with traditional play in this renowned game of mystery.

In one video clue scene, Miss Scarlet looks out a window into a passing storm, and speaks fondly to Colonel Mustard of her memories of “the winds of Sumatra.” Mustard replies, “Remember that summer in Sumatra?” Miss Scarlet flatly replies, “I was never in Sumatra.”
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Today’s featured hat, number 1 of 26, was likely never in Sumatra either. But when I pick it up, I can smell the fields, and the sweat, and maybe the game bag it was carried in. You see, today’s featured hat, a true hunter’s cap, belonged to my Grandfather, Joe. And like our fictional Miss Scarlet, he is somewhat a man of mystery to me.

Joe Bingham passed from this life a few short months after I arrived on the Earth, sometime in the year that was 1967. I have no real memory of time spent with him, of the sound of his voice, or what his personality was like. But, I have a few of the stories shared by my father. I have a small segment of silent movie showing him entering a room recorded in black and white images on 8 millimeter film, another cutting edge technology of days gone by.

A few of my Grandfather’s office effects adorn my office at a university in Edmond today, 50 years and 200 plus miles removed from his old haunts as an engineer with the Texas Highway Department. And, some days, like Miss Scarlet, I look out my office window at a passing storm, or a group of young engineering students walking by, and I wonder about his life.

I was never in Sumatra. That is not just denial, as with our fictional Miss Scarlet. I never really got to know Joe Bingham, either. But, I feel his presence in small trinkets and shared memories.

And I smell it in the winds, preserved in the fabrics comprising Hat 1 of 26. And I like it.