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EPOTM: Cromwell, OK (or Willie Simpkins and the Board of Education)

_DSC0045Everything about our visit with Willie Simpkins surprised me.We were too far into the Cromwell countryside to find someone, but we did.No one looked home when we pulled into Willie’s driveway, but he was.And although his face looked like “no” was the inevitable answer to our key question, he said yes.The dogs with chains tethered to their collars appeared ominous, but they were full of puppy ambition and eager to play.

Willie’s home had seen better days. The brittle remnants of exterior paint could have been flicked off with a gentle brush of the hand.  But his above average intelligence appeared to have been well maintained; he wielded a hefty vocabulary.

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By the empty beer cans around his porch, Miller Lite was clearly his drink of choice but when offered a New Zealand hard cider with elder flowers, he thoughtfully partook and considered the flavors as we talked.

Although he was seated in a wheelchair, Willie was raising cattle and sveltely rolled his chair right across the grass when calling his horses up to the fence.

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Chapters of Willie’s life story could have been framed as tragic, but he was quick with a joke and proclaimed, “I’m still kickin’, just not as high.”

When Rachel and I left Willie’s home that day, I felt changed.  A man who loved to tell them had given us the gift of stories, and we can now pass on a few on to you.

Maybe you’ll feel changed too.

Cheers, Willie.

Note: Cromwell is located just south of I-40 between Shawnee and Henryetta.  The historical information below our video is fascinating.  Happy reading!

Cromwell Wiki and history – fascinating!

Cromwell Oklahoma history archival document – more insight (“Cromwell, the Wicked!”)

How Billie Holiday, Hoboken Coffee and The Pioneer Woman Talked Me Down from my Starbucks Addiction

Technology news is full of information about self-tracking apps helping to “quantify” yourself.  Fitbits track your sleep and exercise.  Apps like Mint help you track your spending habits. And…no, let’s just stop right there.  Apps like Mint track your spending patterns and help you see how out of control your coffee drinking habits are.

Okay, let’s stop again.  Mint tracked my “Coffee Shop” budget for six months and slapped me into reality.  And now, I’m better.  Here’s what happened…

A conversation sometime last year:

Me: I’m setting up our monthly budgets in Mint.  How much do you spend for golf every month.

Mick:  I don’t know, I don’t keep track.

Me:  Well, my one “luxury” every month is going to the coffee shop, relaxing with a latte, and reading.  I’m budgeting $120 per month for me.  That’s my luxury item.  How about you?  What’s your average golf expenditures?

Mick’s golf budget is not part of this story.  But, the idea that I was using social exchange theory is.  In one sense, quite honestly, I was trying to justify my coffee spending habits by externalizing Mick’s golf activity spending habits.  Fair for you; fair for me…

In another way, however, I was trying to find a “number” that fit with how much we were each going to allow ourselves on luxury items per month we had already been spending, but needed to acknowledge.  This “budget line item” allowance we gave ourselves worked like a charm.  For six months or so, we kept a silent tally in our heads of “approximately THAT number” for “our THING.”

But at some point, however, my number began to slip.  I quit paying attention to my “Coffee Shop” line item. And, it gently creeped upward. Until April of 2014.  April was big month.  A full month.  Cram packed with activities, late nights, extra projects, and…extra stops at Starbucks.  I met colleagues at Starbucks to go over goals for research.  It was legislative session, so I had planning sessions at Starbucks followed by phone meetings at Starbucks.  All of the sudden, my $120 Starbucks habit had turned into…wait, WHAT? TWO-HUNDRED AND TWENTY-SEVEN DOLLARS??? Continue reading How Billie Holiday, Hoboken Coffee and The Pioneer Woman Talked Me Down from my Starbucks Addiction

BOOK REVIEW – Life Lessons for Dad: Tea Parties, Tutus, and All Things Pink

photoReviewing a book about father-daughter relationships, in my own mind, introduces the potential for irony.

In a world where societal views about male and female roles are more than a little diverse, clarity and direction in this subject area is fuzzy at best.  Add a generational component into the mix, focus specifically on the relationship between fathers and daughters in the 21st century, and some might even feel downright muddled.

In fact, when thinking about this topic right now I can almost hear the thoughts of fatherhood echoing across the stratosphere:

How far do I push her in life, sports or school?

How do I be there emotionally for her in a way that honors my position as dad…and her position as a developing female?

When do I set rules? When do I break them?  And, how do I feel good about the parenting decisions I make day in and day out as her father?

There are far more questions, I’m sure, if we were to put our ear to that stratosphere that connects to the hearts and minds of fathers today.  But thank goodness, there are answers as well.  One resource with a great number of these type of answers is the book, “Life Lessons for Dad: Tea Parties, Tutus, and All Things Pink” by Michael Mitchell.

The birth of his first child influenced Mitchell to reconcile his own questions and answers, and then begin to share them through his “Life to Her Years” blog.  And, as most good things do, his project grew an audience (regular readers number in the tens of thousands, and some links have two-million+ shares) and then grew a book.  Now, that book is ready to read and share with whomever you think could benefit from the well-written and illustrated content.

I spoke with Mitchell today over an early breakfast.  His heart is full to the brim of passion for fathers of daughters, and I have no doubt we’ll be hearing more from him in the months to come.  “Life Lessons for Dad…” is a solid, well-balanced read and a book-gift worth giving.

I’m glad Oklahoma grows dads like Mitchell, and I’m greatly looking forward to hearing about how you and others respond to his first published work.  Order yours here: Via Amazon

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